Dealing with the Emotions of Moving a Loved One to an Assisted Living Facility

emotions of assisted living

Moving a loved one to an assisted living facility can be hard on the whole family.  Whether you had to make this decision due to a drastic change in health or a planned move agreed upon by all family involved, feelings of guilt, grief or judgement can become a big problem.  At Choice Health Management, we believe social and emotional support make all the difference in our care, and yours.

Here are 3 steps you can take to deal with your emotions and provide emotional support for your resident loved one:

  1. Develop a care partnership – Remember that the care you provide for your loved one doesn’t end when your loved one moves to an assisted living facility, it simply changes. Transform your caregiving into a partnership between your family and the nursing staff.
  2. Make it personal – To help your loved one adapt to their new environment, bring personal items from home, share information about your loved one with the nursing staff, show appreciation for the staffs hard work and plan for an adjustment period where your loved one may be sad, angry or confused. Residents often take a few weeks to adjust, but they will utilize their coping strengths to adapt.
  3. Keep a positive attitude – When visiting, be sure to express your concerns privately and try to build a good relationship with the facility staff. Try to visit frequently and create a plan for your first visits, which may help you and your loved one adapt.  This could include bringing a gift for your loved one as a small reminder of your visit, touch your loved one, listen to them and pay attention to them, bring books or magazines (with large print if possible), show them photos and reminisce about old times.  Remember that no matter how the visit goes, your presence there is the most important thing.

Overall, you are still your loved one’s most important caregiver, your care just evolves to less hands on care and more loving, emotional care.

We know this transition can be very hard on the family, and we want to do everything we can to make you and your loved one comfortable at our facilities. Call us today, and let us know how we can help.