Monthly Archives: September 2016

Reasons Families Disagree About Sending a Loved One to a Nursing Home

family discussion on nursing home

Caring for an aging loved one is a family affair, but it is rarely done without conflict. There is a great number of reasons why a family may come to a disagreement when it comes putting their parents in a nursing home. Choice Health Management is here to help your family come to an agreement regarding the future of your aging loved ones, with some simple tips.

  • You view your parent’s needs differently than your siblings do.

Just because you can see the benefits of placing your aging parent in a nursing doesn’t mean your siblings feel the same way. If your family disagrees on how much care your parent needs, consider seeking expert guidance – a visiting nurse can easily assess if your loved one will receive the best care at home or in a professional nursing facility.

  • One child is the primary caregiver and excludes others from decision making.

It is an unwritten rule that whichever child lives closest to the parents assumes the role of the main caregiver. This can lead to resentment of the other siblings who continue their lives uninterrupted by caring for their aging parents. It can also lead to a completely opposite problem – one caregiver excluding other family members from the caregiving process. While being cut out may hurt at first, as long as all of your parent’s needs are being met and they are safe and healthy, there is no reason to intervene.

  • What if your parent resists professional care?

In rare occasions, the whole family will be on board with the idea of a nursing home, except for the person who will be heading there. If your parent is objecting the idea of professional care, try to explain that you truly believe it is best for their health and safety. Try visiting some assisted living communities so they can make a choice on their own and so they can see the benefits of a nursing home first hand.

Whatever your family disagreements are when it comes to finding a nursing home, Choice Health Management is here to help you in any way possible. Come visit us or contact us today for more information on how to best help your elders.

When to Consider Moving Your Loved One to a Nursing Home

moving to nursing home

Moving your elderly loved ones to a nursing home is never an easy decision to make. However, there are a lot of benefits both for you and for your aging parents or grandparents.  Choice Health Management is here to help you and your loved ones make the transition easy. Here are some things you need to consider when deciding if a nursing home is the right choice for your family.

  • Is it difficult for you to provide hands-on care for your loved one?

Caring for an aging person can be very difficult both mentally and physically. As the person you care for requires more and more work, it is easy to start reprimanding yourself for not being able to do it all. You need to accept that it is difficult to give the constant type of attention your loved one needs. The average family caregiver manages care for 18 hours a week, while maintaining full or part-time jobs, so caregiver burnout is very common and is in fact the main reason a family member eventually ends up in professional care.

  • Do you feel constantly tired and emotionally drained?

Perpetual weariness is a common problem with caregivers, followed by feelings of isolation and overextension. Other than worrying about balancing caregiving and job responsibilities, caregiving can be made harder by the aging person you care for. It is helpful discussing your situation with a support group or an understanding friend.

  • Making the transition may be easier than you think.

Understanding this change is for the best is the first step to transitioning. Have your loved one take some of their favorite possessions with them. If they are a member of an organization or a church, consider making a welcome party at the nursing home to help them best acclimate to the new environment by seeing familiar faces.

Don’t feel overwhelmed by the decisions ahead of you. Choice Health Management is here for all your consulting needs and questions.